Mijoo Opens Up About Control and Jealousy in Past Relationship
On a recent episode of SBS’s variety show Take Off Your Shoes, Dol Sing For Men, South Korean entertainer Mijoo revealed some disturbing truths about a previous romantic relationship. With her trademark candor, she described how her ex-boyfriend displayed obsessive and controlling behavior that left her emotionally drained and isolated.
Some of the examples she shared were shocking: not only was she discouraged from leaving the house, but even while at home, she had to remain on constant video calls so her partner could "keep an eye" on her. She also said he tried to stop her from getting a driver’s license. These are not typical jealous gestures — they are controlling behaviors that cross over into emotional manipulation.
Calling Out Toxicity vs. Exposing Private Lives
The Positive Impact of Speaking Out
Mijoo’s openness serves as a wakeup call about the hidden dangers in romantic relationships that often go unnoticed or are dismissed as "being in love." By talking about jealousy and control openly, she’s helping to validate the experiences of countless others who may be in similar situations but are too afraid or ashamed to speak.
This is not the first time media has helped shed light on these dynamics. The term "gaslighting," once mainly used by psychologists, became part of mainstream conversation after the movie Gaslight, and now it’s a crucial term for discussing psychological abuse. In the same way, Mijoo’s story could help bring more attention to the subtler forms of control that cause long-term emotional harm.
Her courage may also inspire those in similar situations to step forward, talk to someone, or seek help. Raising awareness is the first step toward redefining what a healthy relationship looks like — one based on trust, freedom, and mutual respect.
The Downsides of On-Air Confessions
But not everyone sees eye to eye. Critics argue that talking about such personal matters on national television can heavily impact the involved parties — especially the unnamed ex-boyfriend who now finds his private behaviors publicly known. While Mijoo did not reveal his name, the impact of the exposure cannot be ignored.
There’s also the risk of public backlash turning into a witch hunt. TV audiences often rally around one narrative without having all the facts, and celebrities can find themselves on either side of a social media firestorm overnight. That’s not always constructive, especially when privacy and dignity are involved.
Finally, the broader issue is whether our society is beginning to treat personal stories—particularly traumatic ones—as mere content for entertainment. There is a thin line between meaningful sharing and turning pain into spectacle.
Finding the Balance
Mijoo’s confession presents a critical opportunity for discussion: how do we talk about emotional abuse openly while still respecting the privacy of those involved? Her story underscores the need for healthier relationships built around independence, not surveillance.
At the same time, disclosures like hers shouldn’t be used for drama or ratings. The media, and we as viewers, have a responsibility to handle personal revelations with care — not mock, minimize, or eagerly consume them like gossip.
In the bigger picture, stories like Mijoo’s should spark more dialogue — not only about abusive relationships but about how our society supports (or fails to support) people trying to leave them. Counseling, education, and law enforcement measures tailored toward emotional abuse are increasingly necessary in today's world where boundaries can be easily crossed, even unknowingly.
